You know those movies where the bride is walking down the aisle and right before she says “I do” her true love races in screaming “No! I love you. I’ve always loved you!”
That’s not romantic.
If someone arrived on my wedding day to confess their love for me and that was enough for me to leave? Then we are both idiots. I don’t want to be with a man who waits until the last minute to tell me he is in love with me. Further, I am not the type of woman to marry a person simply because no one better has come along.
A relationship is about love, respect, admiration, growth and understanding (among many, many other things—like laughing and sex). None of those are truly present at the aforementioned scene.
Even if we don’t believe in soul mates I think we all want some semblance of “true love.” That person that instantly captures your heart and when you think of them you can’t stop smiling. The person that you can talk to for hours and never get bored. The person that helps you grow but still appreciates your little quirks—like spontaneously falling off your chair (because sometimes life is frustrating).
What happens when you meet your true love? How do you really know? What if you think you’ve met them while you are still in a relationship? What if after a thousand first dates you are still thinking about that non-date with a friend?
How do you know that it’s a life changing event and not just a glitch in your current relationship?
I don’t want someone racing down the aisle. I want someone running over now. And I want to be running toward them too.
(written this morning, causing me to be late to school)
